Parents with four or more kids befuddle me.
I can only assume that after parents have three offspring, they lose their minds. When they're mulling over whether or not to have another, dad says to mom "well, Billy can help with the baby" (i.e. ALL younger kids). Billy, as you may have guessed, is the theoretical Oldest Child in this theoretical Family. They say this because they remember what it's like to have a newborn baby and are scared as fuck to repeat the work part of that nonsense because, lets face it - it was really hard. The kind of hard that only a little kid can be tricked into doing.
This is why I stopped at two kids. I say calling it good after 2 was a simple matter of replacing only myself and their father in terms of resource consumption, but really it's because I know my own limitations. I have a set amount of patience and energy doled out to me each morning, and more than two kids would cause some spillage. Also, I don't personally believe in using siblings as part-time parents. I mean, sure, aside from the whole "overpopulation/draining resources" issue, big families can probably be fun, if done right - though I am in no way saying that I have any idea what 'right' looks like.
|Seriously. What the fuck? Ew.|
I decided to do a tiny bit of research - I know...I hate it too. I found a blog which goes into all the joys of having a million kids and wearing long skirts for God or something. Anyway, I'm not here to pick on these people, but I did find something interesting, on which I developed a theory. The ages of their kids are 13, 12 (FOUR YEAR BREAK) 8, 6, 5, 3, 2 ,1(x2). Ummm, so here's my theory: Had a couple of kids, some years went by, these two looked at each other once the youngest was getting more independent and thought "oh shit, we have nothing to talk about! No diapers to change, no mashed peas up to scrub off the walls, no gibberish to translate...we'd better have another baby! Or seven!"
That's just my theory. What do I know?
Here's another thing - having kids is expensive! I only have two and already struggle with the whole 'food and clothing' thing. Luckily they have no desire whatsoever to do any sort of enrichment activities. No sports, no music lessons, none of that interests them - for the most part. My daughter started asking about ballet lessons a while ago, but there was really no way for me to swing them anyway. I opted to just distract her with my secret and impressive collection of toilet paper rolls for arts and crafts. She loves those things.
So if I can barely manage two kids, how do normal, not-rich people support, say...four. Or six. Or EIGHT?? And why, for the love of god, WHY?? I would love some input here. I have assumptions that I keep to myself - like they're trying to fill some void by constantly giving themselves the gift of sweet baby pure adoration and dependence; they're trying to do right what their parents did 'wrong' via their children; they're in a self-imposed competition with someone they're jealous of; they legitimately like children and want to have a big family because they love kids more than they love non genetically-modified food, or the idea of having a functioning planet to house them and theirs for centuries to come...and they know Wal Mart will always have their back, so why not?
I guess that's sounding a little judgy there, isn't it? I've been around some very loving, respectful, fun big families, where the siblings all get along and cooperate with one another and seem to really like each other. (Okay, I've only actually witnessed this once). But that doesn't mean I want to try to recreate that, or that I think they couldn't have achieved that same nirvana with about 4 or 5 less kids.
This one is going to keep me guessing, I can tell. I have nothing personally invested in this question, and I'm open to hearing your thoughts, if for no other reason than I'm curious and bored.
Wait. I'm bored...this gives me an idea....